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Rules for Fighting

The main purpose of a discussion when there are two opposing points of view is to have the other person understand your opinion and your feelings.  Total agreement is not necessary but understanding must be there for successful resolution.  Therefore, these rules for fair fighting center around stating your feelings in a way that will […]

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Effects of Violence on Children

The Effects of Violence Children from violent homes may exhibit some of these behaviors. Remember that every child has different coping mechanisms and will react differently to the violence. The following is a list of commonly identified feelings and behaviors of children in a shelter for battered women. These behaviors may also be seen in […]

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Checklist: Items to Take

___Identification ___Birth Certificates for myself and children ___Social Security Cards ___School and Medical Records ___Keys – House/Car/Office ___Driver’s License and Registration ___Medications ___Pictures, jewelry, items of sentimental value ___Children’s favorite toys and/or blankets ___Welfare Identification ___Passport(s), Green Card(s), Work Permits ___Divorce Papers ___Money, Bank Books, Credit Cards ___Insurance Papers ___Address Book ___Lease/Rental Agreement, House Deed, […]

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Are you Being Abused?

Does the person you love . . . . •      Threaten to hurt you or your children?, Throw you down, push, hit, choke, kick, or slap you? •      Say it’s your fault if he or she hits you, then promises it won’t happen again (but it does)? •      Put you down in public or […]

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Safety Planning

INCREASING MY SAFETY IN THE RELATIONSHIP • I will have important phone numbers accessible to my children and myself. • I can tell ______________ and ______________about the violence and ask them to call the police if they hear suspicious noises coming from my home. • If I leave my home, I can go (list four […]

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